Personal Development

Helpful Steps for Getting Out of Debt

April 23rd, 2024|Coaching, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

Money is tied intrinsically into every facet of our lives. We need it to feed, clothe, and entertain ourselves and our loved ones, and we can use it to support the causes closest to our hearts. Of the many things Jesus spoke about, money is one of the areas where we need to get our priorities right, as Jesus said these words, No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money – Matthew 6:24, NIV Money can become so all-consuming and god-like precisely because of how it can seemingly meet all of our needs. Loving money can end up leading you away from the faith and piercing your soul with many griefs (1 Timothy 6:10). When it comes to the topic of debt, it is helpful to understand the practicalities of handling money well, and it is also helpful to adjust our attitudes and mindset toward money that can often contribute to issues. Understanding debt Debt is when you owe a sum of money that you may have borrowed and need to pay back later. Usually, when a debt is paid back, you pay back the amount you owe, and an extra amount called interest on top of that. Debt is usually how people make large purchases that they couldn’t otherwise because most of us do not have large amounts of cash lying around to use. Thus, we use debt to buy a house, fund our education, buy a car, etc. Not all debt is the same, as some debt can help you meet significant needs. Few people could outright make purchases such as a home or a car, and to some extent, it [...]

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Talk Isn’t Cheap: Counting the High Cost of Communication in Relationships

April 15th, 2024|Coaching, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Relationship Issues|

Communication in relationships is more than words that we speak and hear. A trite saying suggests that “talk is cheap.” Although the phrase has more to do with the importance of following up on one’s word with verifiable actions, our words are costly. Words retain the ability to shift realities. We can respect the power that our words usher into atmospheres by committing to speak God’s Truth, yet always in love and with wisdom. We don’t need to say everything that we think or feel, but we can learn when and where it is appropriate to share. The pattern of our society permits speech that harms when we disagree with others and want to unburden ourselves of an unsolicited opinion. In doing so, we desensitize ourselves to the impact of harsh words. When we prevent the Holy Spirit from tempering our tongues, we demonstrate our preference for impulsivity over integrity, allowing the flesh to control our actions instead of esteeming our brother or sister. The Lord is inviting us to let love rule, and that includes governing the unruly tongue that wants to have its say (James 3:5-12). Unlearn Beginning with the Holy Spirit helps us to take inventory of our hearts. Before we can bring change, we have to embrace and embody it by partnering with the Holy Spirit to reshape our communication practices. We can unlearn destructive patterns and practice healthy communication that honors God and those made in His Image. Active listening, the practice where we not only hear messages but also engage with others, through reflecting and paraphrasing, ensures that we understand them. In a society that is divided along deep fault lines, we must recognize the weight our words embody. They carry more than the consequence of forming factions or friendships but rather leverage [...]

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What is Catastrophic Thinking?

November 17th, 2023|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

The word catastrophic means something terrible, sudden, and disastrous. While it is normal for all of us to fear or think about impending disasters or terrible events, especially on the back of the pandemic, those who battle catastrophic thinking can’t turn that thinking off. They are in a constant state of crisis as anything can be potentially disastrous. Our mind unfortunately cannot tell the difference between someone experiencing something terrible and our imaginations of something terrible happening. As a way of protecting us, the body goes into fight, flight, or freeze mode, even when there is no actual danger. It is for this reason catastrophic thinking can be detrimental to mental and physical health. It is important to note that catastrophic thinking is not a mental health condition, though it can be a symptom of some conditions. Catastrophic thinking has been likened to the snowball effect. It starts with a small negative thought that can, just like a snowball grow into something much bigger than the initial trigger. Characteristics of Catastrophic Thinking People caught up in a catastrophic thinking loop do so without any evidence that what they fear will come to pass and in most cases, those fears do not materialize. Some of the common characteristics of catastrophic thinking can include the following: Negative irrational thinking. Catastrophic thinkers do not rely on evidence or fact to support their fears and anxieties. It’s all cognitive with no actual reasoning behind their negative conclusions. They use their emotions and/or intuitions as evidence that something terrible is going to happen. Exaggeration. In simple terms, this is sometimes referred to as blowing things out of proportion. Catastrophic thinkers magnify the significance and impact of a situation, making it much worse than it is. Minimize abilities. They minimize their ability to deal with [...]

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Using Fitness to Battle Stress Eating

June 28th, 2023|Eating Disorders, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

If you struggle with stress eating, you probably have a set of tools to get through a craving or urge. For example, you might plan your meals, have an accountability partner, weigh regularly, and keep fresh fruits and veggies at your disposal. But how necessary is fitness to your battle with stress eating? Whether you think of it as fitness, exercising, working out, or training, physical movement can help you get past food temptations, reign in your appetite, and crush stress eating. Why we love endorphins. Your body releases endorphins when you exercise, even at a moderate pace, for ten or fifteen minutes. Endorphins affect your mood and appetite. The neurotransmitter dopamine leaves you feeling happy and on top of the world. It is what runners refer to as a “runner’s high.” Leptin decreases your appetite so that you feel less hungry and balances out the ghrelin levels, the hormone that increases appetite. You may find that after training consistently for a while, your anxiety and depression lift thanks to endorphins. Our bodies were created to withstand physical stressors to build strength, so physical movement and training are beneficial and healing to the body. How to get started with fitness. Before you start any fitness regimen, you should get clearance from your primary physician. This will rule out any medical issues and provide guidelines for you to follow. Next, you will want to take note of your weight and measurements. You will also want a baseline level of performance. For example, can you walk a mile? How long does it take you to walk one mile? How many pushups can you do? Can you do a pullup? Try to touch your toes and record how far your reach is from your toes. These are performance assessments that you can [...]

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How to Improve Your Self-Esteem and Love Yourself

February 8th, 2023|Christian Counseling For Teens, Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development|

Some people believe it is impossible for you to improve your self-esteem. However, if you make positive, intentional choices, you can discover a newfound confidence in who you are. Characteristics of confidence A person has confidence when they believe that the course of action they have selected is the best one and that they can carry it out effectively. Confidence is sometimes referred to as self-confidence when describing it as a personality feature. People’s attitudes and views about their capacities and talents are described by this phrase. People with high degrees of self-assurance may believe they will succeed in their goals and continue to feel in charge of their lives. People who are confident in themselves typically have faith in their skills, authority, and discernment. They might feel more confident than persons with low self-confidence in their capacity to carry out a variety of life responsibilities well, feeling less anxious and self-conscious. One-time feelings of confidence are also possible. For instance, a woman preparing to speak might be sure that it would go well despite struggling at other times. However, people might also have confidence in most aspects of their lives as a broad personality feature. People with high levels of self-assurance will feel at ease thinking that other people are just like them, that they can perform well at work, and that they can handle the rigors of daily life. People with strong self-confidence tend to be happier than those with less self-confidence because high self-confidence is connected with high self-esteem. A person who has confidence in others believes that other people will do a good job at what they do, fulfill their obligations, or keep their word. While one’s interaction with another person can have an impact on one’s general opinion of others, self-confidence can also have [...]

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The Surprising Benefits of Volunteering

January 31st, 2023|Coaching, Featured, Personal Development, Professional Development|

Making new friends, learning new skills, advancing your job, and even feeling happier and healthier are all benefits of volunteering. Find out where to look for the ideal volunteer position for you. Why volunteer? It might be difficult to find time to volunteer when you lead a hectic life. However, there can be significant advantages to volunteering. Volunteering provides essential assistance to those in need, deserving causes, and the community, but the advantages can also extend to you, the volunteer. You may discover friends, become involved in the community, pick up new skills, and even improve in your profession with the perfect match. Giving can also help you maintain good physical and mental health. It can alleviate stress, treat depression, keep your mind active, and give you a sense of direction. Volunteering doesn’t have to include a long-term commitment or take a lot of time out of your busy day, although it is true that the more you volunteer, the more benefits you’ll enjoy. Even small acts of generosity can benefit those in need and enhance your health and happiness. Here are more advantages and benefits of volunteering: You can meet new people via volunteering. Volunteering is healthy for both your body and mind. Your career may benefit from volunteering. Your life will be more enjoyable and fulfilling if you volunteer. Benefit #1: Volunteering allows you to meet new people. The effect on the community is one of the volunteering’s more well-known advantages. By volunteering, you may improve your community and strengthen your sense of community. People, animals, and organizations in need can benefit greatly from even the smallest acts of assistance. The act of volunteering is reciprocal. It might be as advantageous to you and your loved ones as the cause you decide to support. You may increase [...]

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Helpful Stress Management Activities

January 5th, 2023|Featured, Individual Counseling, Personal Development, Spiritual Development|

Life is hectic: responsibilities, bills, debts, family, work. Most people do their best but find little time to let go. Their minds are constantly spinning with problems and worries. When this happens, we must take control by engaging in stress management activities. The Trouble with Chronic Stress Chronic stress can lead to many problems, such as inflammation, high blood pressure, rapid heart rate, higher levels of cortisol, insomnia, changes in eating and sleeping patterns, anxiety, panic attacks, and depression. Stress affects you physically, mentally, and emotionally. When the body stays in a constant state of distress, it can weaken the heart and blood vessels, leading to heart attack or stroke. As your eating patterns change, you are at risk for eating disorders, diabetes, and obesity. You may notice joint pain, body aches, and headaches. Your mental health also takes a hit with chronic stress. You can develop a mental health condition such as: Anxiety Depression Panic disorder Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Binge-eating, anorexia, or bulimia Poor body image Social anxiety Night terrors Trouble with concentration Dementia or Alzheimer’s Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder This is why practicing stress management activities is crucial to your health. Do not think of these activities as selfish or things you do when you want to feel luxurious. These are not luxury tasks, but necessities. You need to stay healthy. God took a day off to rest and commanded us to rest at least once a week. By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work. – Genesis 2:2, NIV Stress Management Activities You Can Do Now It does not take a great deal of time or money to destress. You can incorporate little stress management activities into your day and week. Most [...]

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